Lighting Up With the Holy Trinity
Wanna add a magnificent tool for transformation to your life? The Holy Trinity is something I learned from Mama Gena’s brilliant book Pussy, and it helps create radiance in yourself and others immediately. Not only do you get an instant boost from doing this practice, but it also builds your muscle for cultivating radiance, so you can lean into it and choose it more often.
This practice can be done…and probably should be done…right in the middle of the stickiest mud and muck, just as much as when you're flying high! I’ve done the Holy Trinity at the end of dinner parties and girlie get-togethers, and we also close every Swamping session with it (a practice also founded by Mama Gena. Read more about Swamping here).
Once we’ve cleared the gunk out of our systems, we use the Holy Trinity to connect with one another in a way that lights us up and encourages each of us to choose radiance going forward. We serve as sources of inspiration by each sharing our “Holy Trinity,” as Mama Gena calls it.
Here’s a quickie synopsis:
The Holy Trinity
Step 1: Brags
The first step is to share three brags and celebrate all the amazingness going on in your life right now. Share what you’re proud of: your success, your magnetism, your light that’s shining so freaking bright!
Here are the examples given in Pussy:
I brag that I have a hot lover who traveled two hours just to be with me last night.
I brag that when my kid brought home a report card with two D’s, I didn’t freak out.
I brag that the meeting I ran at the office yesterday went easily, and I felt confident the whole time.
Step 2: Gratitudes
Next, you express three gratitudes for all the beauty, abundance, love, and kindness in your life. From the itty-bitty things to the big blowout moments. Even if in a dark night of the soul, you find appreciation for what is going well.
Examples from Pussy:
I’m grateful that when my car got sideswiped last night, I wasn’t inside of it.
I’m grateful that my boyfriend brought me dinner tonight so I didn’t have to cook.
I’m grateful for the rain, which is bringing my garden back to life.
Step 3: Desires
Ah-ha! We’ve reached the final step! This is where you let your dreams pour out and declare to yourself, one another, and the Universe what you truly want. From pussy to heart to voice, you lean fully into your divine self and show up as the radiant being you are (because it is your job!).
Examples from Pussy:
I want to finish working on this report and then go take an S Factor class tonight at six o’clock.
I want to have a summer house in Amagansett, no more than a five-minute drive from the beach, with at least four bedrooms so I can invite my best women friends for the weekend.
I want to take weekly guitar lessons and set aside at least 30 minutes to play and sing every day.
Do you feel more radiant just reading this? Are your desires already bubbling to the surface? That’s the magic of the Holy Trinity.
Pro tip: I’ve found it flows best to go in rounds. Each person shares their three brags, then everyone shares their three gratitudes, and then their three desires. No cross-talk or backseat driving, just pure enthusiasm, encouragement, and support. Think: a sacred circle catching and transferring a shit ton of light and joy.
Give it a whirl, radiant being. And most importantly… HAVE FUN!
p.s. — Wanna read more about this magnificent book, Pussy? You can right here.